Reasons why you should do Dry Dating January

How much time and energy do you put into scrolling left and right on your phone through Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grindr, etc.? How much effort and emotion do you use when you are worried about what to wear on a first date or spend worrying and waiting for someone to text you back? I frankly am tired of getting ready to go on dates or social activities with a date who puts sub-par energy into the night and instead would rather be doing many other things that benefit myself instead. This month, let's put all that time we would spend on an app or on terrible first or second dates, on ourselves. 

Here are some reasons why you should do Dry Dating January:

1. Invest time in yourself instead

Use the time that you would use getting ready or actually on the date, on yourself. What do you never have time for that you want to accomplish and now can use the extra time to do? At the end of the day, the time is going to pass whether or not you are doing something with it; might as well invest in yourself as much time as you invest in others. Be selfish, show yourself some extra love this month.

2. Use the extra time to get a new hobby

Are you the type of person that says you never have time to workout or never have time to read? Well now you do! Maybe try a new Pilates studio or pick up skiing. Knitting or pickleball could also be something new to invest in. Identify what your insecurities when dating are around and maybe start there; for example I am insecure about my lack of cooking skills so I am going to use this month to try new recipes!

3. New Year, New You

I’m not one to have New Year’s resolutions but maybe you are. Use the month to start new habits or new changes that you want to see in 2024. Remember, your dreams don’t work unless you do. Start your goals and changes gradually, one small step at a time this month and when is a better time to start than now? Maybe it’s a good time to have some deep reflection to see if you are your own ideal partner and the person you would like to be for others; either that is romantic or friendly. Use that list to start your new year’s intention; to be a better future partner and friend.

4. Dating requires a lot of mental stability

Have you been rejected lately or found yourself seeing dating as a “chore”? Me too and that is completely normal, but shouldn’t someone else get 100% from you as you’d ask for them to give you 100%? Tara month to step back and realign what it is you are looking for in a partner. If you are looking to date loosely and nothing serious then be honest about that when ou jump back into the dating field in February. If you are getting over a breakup, make sure your dating goals aren’t to just jump right back into the dating pool because you could end up hurting someone rather than growing with someone. Realign with what your ideal partner’s qualities are and make a list of what you bring to the table as well.

5. Save money on a date, spend it on yourself

Instead of spending money on a luxurious meal, take yourself on a solo date instead! Spend the money you would on a date, on yourself or save it and kick off a new savings plan this year.