Building Confidence: Practical Tips to Become a More Confident Person

We all know that feeling when self doubt creeps in and makes your inner negativity come out and convinces you you aren’t good enough for whatever in life you are going through at the moment. First of all, if you are doubting yourself then others will as well and second, if you were looking at the same scenario but your friend was experiencing it, would you be treating your friend as harshly as you’re treating yourself?. The answer is likely no, so give yourself some grace. Just a gentle reminder that you are the only person putting a timeline on yourself, you are the person creating problems in your own head that aren't there, you are the one putting pressure to complete something or be someone by a certain time; breathe, everything will happen with consistent work the way it's supposed to.

It's cheesy but confidence genuinely comes from within. If you think successful people don't deal with confidence issues, you are sadly mistaken. Everyone has self doubt or days where they feel low or like they aren't good enough, but it's what you do with those low feelings that makes you into the person you want to become. If you tell yourself over and over again that you can accomplish something and actively do things every day to achieve that goal, then you will eventually convince yourself that you can do it. This translates later into if you believe that you can do it, eventually others will believe it too. Having internal confidence also means understanding when it's time to step up as a leader or step down as a follower to allow others around you to shine. It means being humble enough to build up others around you because you want your colleagues and friends to build their own internal confidence as well.

When you build your own confidence, it can reflect well in your relationships, career and overall well being. You will no longer care about what others around you think because you are content in who you are as a person and know that you are enough as is. Insecurities and judgement are loud and confidence is silent. Becoming the version of yourself you've always wanted to be means giving into unlearning negative habits and behaviors that no longer align with the type of person you want to be; that's how you grow. Being a confident person also means fully understanding who and who doesn't deserve to have a space in your life because you are aware of your self worth and how important your time and peace is. Be confident enough to say 'no' to people who are not healthy or good for your mental health and you will learn to become more confident in only accepting healthy and consistent relationships.

Becoming more confident takes time and internal work that not a lot of people want to work on because it is difficult work. Here are some practical tips to become a more confident person:

1. Become your biggest cheerleader by celebrating even the smallest successes

2. Become proud of yourself. If you don’t feel like you’re doing enough or have done enough, what can you do to get yourself there?

3. You have to discover fake confidence that will develop into real confidence. Tell yourself you are the becoming the best version of yourself and enjoying the journey it's taking to get there.

4. Love every version of yourself, if you don't then who will?

5. Be able to be happy on your own and then no one can take that away from you

6. Face your fears, what are you so afraid of by being rejected? Rephrase rejection as redirection babe. What goes, flows and what comes gracefully, stays.

7. Become comfortable understanding your flaws and insecurities. If you know what you need to work on then it wont be seen as an insult or taken as personally if other people say it.

8. Be humble; confidence is silent, insecurities are loud.